Friday, September 19, 2008

Decisions

choice 1: Leave now, with son. Daughter will stay here with her father

choice 2: bus it down to Singapore with both kids and hop on the next plane to Melbourne. Traumatise kids and father badly, but get what I want.

choice 3:tough it out for 3 more really unhappy years and ex will let me take them back to melbourne to finish their education at the end of 2011. that gives him 3 more years with them to influence their growing up. Parents are, after all, the biggest influence in the children's lives.

choice 4: Just leave. Just me, no kids. Go to whereever I feel like going.

I wonder what choice other people would make.

My parents don't know this yet. I haven't told them and don't know how to tell them. If you read this and know them, please don't tell them.

4 comments:

I'm not Craig said...

I'd like to think that I would choose 3.

Without actually being in that situation, I have no idea what I would actually be capable of choosing, and living with.

Rwading your blog lots, commenting occasionally, thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts often.

phoenixmummy said...

I think those positive thoughts must have come right on through because I've made what I think is the right decision. Thank you for your thoughts.

Melba said...

hope i'm not too late to vote.

all i can say is i would never leave my daughter. even if i had two or more children, i could never make the sophie's choice and leave one.

if you've chosen number 3 i think that's the right one. as long as you can survive it. and i'm not being funny about it.

but i know how strong you are. you are ace.

xxxxxxxx

phoenixmummy said...

thankyou Melba. I can't make a choice either. I can't leave her. It would destroy me and scar her for the rest of her life. 4 months last year was bad enough. And the kids, they need each other. Both ex and I understand that.